This is my great grandmother.  Gramma MacDonald.  Mary.  She was born on the Isle of Harris in the Outer Hebrides of Scotland.  I visited there several years ago and experienced the land where she was born and lived.  She moved from the island as a young woman and had her children in North America–Martha’s Vineyard and then Canada.  When I visited the island, I met a second cousin, who remarkably is the town historian.  He told me that she sent letters home to Scotland regularly  indicating  that she always longed for Scotland although she never returned.  You can see in this photo that she is knitting, smiling, with her bonnet on.  There is an open book in her lap which very likely is the family Bible, which I now have in my possession.  Its binding is completely disintegrating.  Do I have it rebound?  Or let the disintegration continue?  The beauty of something so deeply loved and consulted dissolving—like a fading flower.

Just as we inherit genes that determine eye color, height, body type, we also inherit the energy of our families.  What we do with that, how we stand with that is up to each of us.

Families are energy systems, among other things.  Family energy systems know and remember all that occurs.  Many of the things that occur are flowing and beautiful, no matter the family circumstance.  And some things are painful. Sometimes too painful, to be fully acknowledged and integrated into consciousness. Those events or dynamics are pushed away,  hidden in the deep shadows of the family field.  But they are not forgotten.

Subsequent generations sometimes can feel, sense, act out, live these unacknowledged events, emotions, dynamics without knowing  what is happening.  Family constellation work reveals the hidden energies so that they can be held in consciousness, accepted and integrated into the complex living matrix which is a family.    Not only are hidden difficulties revealed, but also hidden resources, hidden gems of wisdom, compassion, understanding.

My experience is if something exists in a family, then somehow the family has the energy or resource to hold it in consciousness , love, compassion and understanding.  It may be necessary to access deep ancestral roots to find this compassion, or it may be that through some members of the family, access to universal energies can  pour into the family field.

There is a workshop coming up on February 11 in the afternoon .  There is room to come as a representative if you would like to experience this work. Contact me through this website or through email at  It can be life changing in a good way.  I offer these workshops on a regular basis.  To be directly informed, subscribe to my website news and you will receive a notice when a new workshop is announced. family-constellations1